Real Modern Man

One of the keys to meeting women in a fun and relaxed way is by being comfortable around them. This means that you are so accustomed to speaking with women, touching women, making them laugh, giving them a good time, and so on that you don’t worry about being able to do these things. Note I used the word “accustomed”. You may still get nervous. You may still get excited. Those things are fine, and indeed are good. They will add tension and spice to the reaction. If you can feel comfortable with a woman and build sexual tension, she will reflect that. However, if you’re not used to talking to women, then no amount of clever one-liners will fix that. If you’re not used to touching women, then you will have a very difficult time escalating it to a physical relationship.

What this means is that before you worry about how to have sex with a woman, or how to get her into a relationship, you must first master the basics of human interaction. That means you have to practice, and you have to practice on everyone. If you only look for that one perfect woman when you’re out, and she’s the only woman you interact with, then you will be extremely nervous. Not only will you not learn to be comfortable, you will in fact train yourself to be less comfortable. Talk to everyone you come across. Make them laugh. Touch them. Make these things natural for yourself. Then when it comes time to that attractive woman, sure you’ll still feel nervous, but at least “what do I say” and “when and how should I touch her” won’t be on your list of preoccupations. You can instead focus on getting to know her and having a good time.

For those guys who already have a girlfriend, you may think that you’re done and you can just relax. No! You have to continue to practice and demonstrate your comfort with women. This will show your girlfriend that you don’t need her in your life, and she will appreciate you as a result. If she only ever sees you sitting around at home playing video games, she will take you for granted. There will be no tension or challenge for her. Also, if you’re not used to relating to people in a normal way and you see your girlfriend flirting with other guys, you risk becoming very jealous, which will damage the relationship. However, if you flirt with other women just as much (if not more so), you will realize that it’s not a big deal, and it will make the relationship better for the both of you.

If you are not comfortable around women, then that is the first thing you need to fix.

~Tubarao