Real Modern Man

An interesting article on Race Depriest (from The Art of Charm) written by Diana Spechler just showed up on Nerve. Here’s a snippet from the last paragraph or so:

“But simultaneously, I’m starting to think there’s a down side to cracking the mystery of social dynamics, to reading body language as easily as other people read the word “EXIT,” glowing red in the dark of a public building. You watch someone talk and know when she’s lying; you watch someone move and know what she’s thinking. If you have a Rosetta Stone for every interaction, you can never again think, This is magical, or, I’m falling so hard, or, Only you can make me feel this way. And without those sensations, without the willingness to relinquish control, without the belief (no matter how juvenile) that chemistry is partly magic, how can you ever fall in love? How can you lose yourself in a moment?” From the Nerve article No More Games by Diana Spechler

These kinds of articles were dense the year after Neil Strauss published “The Game” (which I haven’t yet read by the way).

The subtext to all of them is “Oh my God! These guys are on to us! *Panic* But they’re all creeps! They have to be creeps.” Yeah, whatever.

But the piece itself is very good. The author, Diana Spechler, is brutally honest with herself and with us, her readers, and that’s very refreshing.

Seriously, her worries shouldn’t be an issue. I understand her point of view and her concern, and I hope she gets curious enough to dig a lot deeper. She will find that the true magic of seduction is that the “knowing” about seduction doesn’t reduce the pleasure, either when seducing… or being seduced. It enhances it. Really.

Your knowledge will enhance your pleasure.

Read Zig Ziglar “Secrets of Closing the Sale” to get an appreciation from an astounding salesman… who *loved* to be sold! Yep. A man who knew as much about selling as any man alive, and who throughly appreciated being sold.

Here’s a related example. As you know, Joseph, Franco and I assert that manipulation is a normal and natural behavior for many women, and that we believe there’s good manipulation and bad manipulation (Chapter 13). Once you as a man truly understand “good” manipulation, you will develop a sincere appreciation for this most feminine of arts. Instead of resenting being manipulated, you are free to exercise your choice to accept it or lead her in a different direction.

Ok, gotta go… my girl DZ has finagled me into hanging out for dim sum with her mom at Macau Cafe (Pacific East Mall). Not a problem, I have the rest of her day planned out for my own semi-nefarious purposes.

Folks, a quick admin note here… I’m in the process of moving Applied Romance to a new hosting company. The old one makes it difficult to switch (”hostage” business model). Rather than jump through all their hoops, I’m just shutting it down and won’t do any more business with them in the future. As a result my email address davidclare at appliedromance.com will be down for a few days. The blog is now hosted at http://blog.appliedromance.net/, but I’ll be redirecting all Applied Romance traffic to Real Modern Man within about a week.

In the meantime, if you get a bounced email from my appliedromance.com address, send it to me here using “david” here at realmodernman.com.

Thanks, and keep it real out there folks.

Most men and a fair number of women loathe Valentines Day as one of those reprehensible hallmark holidays designed to sell greeting cards.

I used to loathe V Day myself.

Now, I just roll with it…

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