Real Modern Man

Here’s who you are:

1. You’re a divorced man.
2. Your dating skills suck.
3. You want to meet women for friendship or relationship or whatever.

Here’s what I have for you today:

Ok, here’s your strategic rules:

1. Know what you want with her: This is the most important rule of all. When you are meeting a woman to get to know her better, you are checking her out to see if she fits into your life. Presumably, you have a woman-shaped hole in your life, right? This is natural, if you didn’t you’d be either dead, or gay. Not that there’s anything wrong with being dead, or gay, but there isn’t any shame in desiring a woman with whom to share your life.
2. Know your deal breakers: for me it’s women who smoke. They just don’t do it for me. Don’t know why, just how it is. I have other deal breakers, but that one’s pretty important, and pretty easy to find out.
3. Keep it light, no heavy stuff: No whining about your ex-girlfriend/wife/whatever. No complaining about the economy, bankers, Goldman Sachs, or whoever or whatever else is pissing you off royale at the moment.
4. Keep it under 1 hour: The less you say, the less you mess up.

Remember to smile.

Easy peasy.

So much for the strategy. I bet you want to know about tactics now (”But what do I talk about?”). Frankly, it doesn’t really matter. I just got back from an exceedingly pleasant hour myself… one of the topics we discussed was the basic equation of accounting. It was good. We’ll be seeing more of each other. If you really want to know about tactics, ask in the comments.

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This method is by-the-numbers guaranteed to work for older, divorced men. This isn’t some theoretical crapola from the armchair. I know that it works because it’s what I’ve done for years.

It’s really important to understand something else: What random women think about men—and how men meet women and lead relationships—is not very important.

What’s far more important is what works for you.