Real Modern Man

I saw an interesting program today that was about training people to go into the wild and interact with animals such as deer, in their natural habitat. Charging towards a deer would naturally scare it away. However, coming at a creature sideways, when you are actually intending to get close to it, but pretending that you’re not, would also scare the animal away. The animal can literally sense the dishonesty of intention or incongruence.

Women understand that men become aroused by merely looking at their bodies, their clothing and makeup, and the way that they move, laugh and gesture. This is a natural phenomenon and it’s something to be appreciated and not be ashamed of. However, we must also consider the woman’s overriding need for safety: physical, emotional and social. Because of the historic risk of death, pregnancy and social ostracism, women of self esteem are extremely sensitive to men who might pose a threat to them.

Essentially, if you lack a basic understanding of Female Psychology, you’re a potential threat to a woman.

A woman needs to know that you understand how her body and mind work together, at least to an extent that she’ll benefit from allowing an interaction with you to escalate. If you’re talking to a woman but pretending as though you’re not interested in her – or worse, that you’re repelled by her – then this is going to shine through and you will actually frighten her! She will get a sense that you either do not love and appreciate women in general, you don’t care for her or her feelings, or you simply do not know what you’re doing when it comes to handling her mind and body.

Am I saying that there is no benefit to reading about and studying an “indirect” method of romancing a woman? No, I am not saying that. I personally learned a tremendous amount from reading such material. But I need to add a caveat here: a man who blindly copies someone else’s routines or mannerisms – without understanding first of all the metaframe, and the psychology of the parties involved in the interaction – will surely fail.  

When you observe certain men who are naturally smooth with women, you will notice that they are often interested in a woman, but not too interested. Such a man does not get aroused too easily. He understands that a woman is going to be testing him for social and other forms of safety. He needs to get to know her a bit better before he can be sure he wants to have a sexual relationship with her. Such a man can be observed to be interacting in an “indirect” style of courtship. When you write all this down in the form of a script, you’re likely to miss the subtlety of the interaction, the reasons why the natural man is behaving as he does. 

So any “disinterest” you display must be genuine. It should not be a ruse or a trick to try to fool her into thinking you like her less than you actually do. The most effective way to demonstrate to a woman that you are actually screening and qualifying her, is to actually give a damn about her character and personality as the unique woman that she is.