Don’t Be George Sodini – Seriously – Get some game and get real
By now you may have heard about Mr George Sodini, a computer programmer from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania who was fed up with being called a “nice guy.”
And did something about it.
Unfortunately, for everyone involved, shooting up a health club was NOT the right thing to do.
Sodini left a blog as well, with all sorts of details. It was his diary. His thoughts. A cursory overview of just as little as the media will let us see shows us an angry, desperate man, seriously out of touch with himself, with women, and with modern society at large.
The saddest part of the whole episode is that it’s totally unnecessary for any man with an internet connection to wallow in this state. Sure, George Sodini most likely had an old-fashioned upbringing. He probably didn’t have a terribly happy childhood, and almost certainly his parents were a little out of whack Children learn their social skills somewhere after all, and the usual place is in their home. He certainly didn’t know how to handle women.
But none of that – excuse my language – bullshit matters.
He was a man. No matter what society allows for anyone else, Franco, Joseph and I believe the hallmark of a man is taking responsibility for his actions.
If you’re reading this article, and anything that George Sodini wrote resonates with you, you need to get your game on point, RIGHT NOW. I don’t give a shit whether you continue to read Real Modern Man or not. I don’t give a shit whether this post pisses you off. I don’t give a shit about your lame excuses about why you won’t Take. Action. Now. to get right with yourself and get right with women.
YOU have even less excuse than George Sodini: you’ve been exposed to the technology you need to succeed with women.
YOU have the material you need to succeed. If not here on Real Modern Man, then just do a damn Google search on “seduction” or something. There’s thousands of web pages… more than you could ever read. Hundreds of products… more than you could ever need.
Go. Do it now. Get it together. No excuses.
For the rest of you gentlemen, which I hope and trust is the vast majority of you, we’ll be back to our (ir)regularly scheduled programming ricky tic.
And ladies: don’t tell a man he’s a “nice guy.” Tell him he needs to brush his teeth, or use a breath mint, or trim his nose hairs, or wear more fashionable shoes, or whatever. When you tell a man he’s a “nice guy” or a “good man” you’re not thinking of him at all. You’re selfishly brushing him off because you don’t have the courage or manners to politely and discreetly tell him the truth. And if you just can’t summon the courage, don’t say anything at all.
5 Responses to 'Don’t Be George Sodini – Seriously – Get some game and get real'
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You are a bunch of Assholes. I mean really, trying to sell your system and products out of a tragedy. Thinking that you have some answers, when this guy probably needed to see a REAL DOCTOR. You think you know how he felt and that you have the answer to all of his problems, but I doubt you do. You have nothing original and probably leave a lot of guys worse off than they were before. Game is not the answer to EVERYTHING….IF anything Resonates with you, you really need to get some REAL help.
jdfreshwater
6 Aug 09 at 9:08 pm
Thanks for reading, jdfreshwater.
Differences of opinion are always welcome here on RMM.
I don’t agree that that George needed to see a “REAL DOCTOR.” I believe he needed to get his head out of ass, stop feeling sorry for himself, and learn to meet women at whatever price it cost him.
Instead, he decided to meet women at the point of a gun and it cost him his life and the lives of totally blameless women.
No, jdfreshwater, George Sodini was a pussy. And no one called him out on his bullshit. So everyone suffers.
Here’s my challenge for you: YOU spend YOUR time pouring YOUR heart out to help men. YOU promote YOUR knowledge of how to be successful with women. Start a website. Start a newsletter. Put in the hours. And do it for free, as Joseph, Franco and I do.
And make all your content original.
It’s real easy to criticize and hate. It’s a helluva lot harder to take action. So get to it.
David Clare
7 Aug 09 at 7:46 am
I just found out Tracy Clark-Flory from Salon chose to slander my article. Tracy didn’t bother to READ my article… just took a cheap shot at the assumed content.
If that’s what passes for Journalism at Salon, I’ll pass on Salon, thank you very much.
By the way, this is an excellent example of “perception trumping reality.” What I actually wrote is irrelevant… outside of being a target for a cheap shot.
David Clare
7 Aug 09 at 8:04 am
jdfreshwater, your comments are proof this site needs a reading impaired section for idiotic posts like the one you made above. I have read and reread David’s post and nowhere did he try and sell anything. He was giving people a major clue as to where they could get free help if they have a similar problem.
What George Sodini needed was to get laid. Sex is a real human need and being unable to fulfill that need leaves one depressed and desperate. In his case, he snapped and did a lot of damage.
A real doctor wouldn’t have gotten him laid, 100% guaranteed. He didn’t need medical treatment, he didn’t need therapy, he needed coaching in how to succeed in the human mating ritual. Mainstream medicine and psychotherapy is clueless in this area. The only people who actually understand how humans select mates are people like the coaches here and at other Seduction Community sites.
If you are frustrated with your inability to make it with women, the answer is not to get angry with them, nor is it to go get professional help and be drugged into a eunuch. The answer is to find out what you are doing wrong, fix it, and start doing it right. As David said, all the answers you need are available on line and free.
George Soldini was fairly good looking, had a job, and had a place to live. Had he had any social skill, he would have been getting laid and this tragedy wouldn’t have happened.
There are millions just like him who will never snap and never make the news, but will live lives of quiet desperation, and die never knowing the joy a relationship can bring. The only way they can change their situation is to learn how to interact with women successfully.
The guys in the Seduction Community offer the only real help available, and many of the best do it for free or at rates that will never make them rich, because they too were once like George Soldini, but somehow dragged themselves out of the pits of despair, fixed their problems, and are now offering a helping hand to others in a similar situation. I know because I have received much help, which has changed my life for the better, and I have never been asked to pay a dime.
So, I say to you, jdfreshwater, until you can show a record of helping hundreds of guys who were in the same boat as George Soldini for free, I suggest you keep your ill informed opinion of those who really are doing something about the problem to yourself.
Mike Silvertree
Silvertree
7 Aug 09 at 2:01 pm
Great post David,
I am a licensed physician and specialist in psychiatry.
If Sodini would have ended up to my practice I would have helped him to:
- Get in touch with his masculine aggressive feelings and helped him to put them out in a functional way
- Get in touch with his natural masculine sexual desire and helped him to put it out in a functional way
In the case I would have been successful ( there is a difference between a doctor and God ) that might have saved his life and the life of the women
Cheers, Franco
Franco
9 Aug 09 at 2:42 am