Real Modern Man

I was at a little cancer benefit last night at Dragon Bar on Broadway in San Fran, an invitation from Irina S who turned out to be the only person I knew there.

But I made some new friends, had a little epiphany, and learned something interesting.

My little epiphany: women will approach you… but they approach differently than men. At one point during the evening, a woman I had noticed earlier swung by a conversation I was having with my new friend Roderick, sort of shimmied herself as the music ramped up, and hovered around with an expectant look on her face. Right at arms reach. So I reached out and drew her into our conversation. Very nice.

It’s nice to make an explicit connection to hovering as a women’s approach technique.

Now, I mentioned I had noticed this woman earlier in the evening. I was curious about her because she projecting that sort of wanna-be euro look so common among San Fran posers. Or should I say “poseurs?” Posers seriously annoy me. More than a little. But she was doing an unusually good job at appearing European, and I’m getting a lot more mellow in my advanced senility, and she was cute in any case.

Turns out she’s French!

There’s a lesson here: First impressions are important. Equally important is your reaction to your first impression. Had I chosen to be snotty because of my first impression of her as yet another annoying poser, I wouldn’t have made a new friend.

I’ll have more to say about how women approach shortly… in my experience they will practically line up to meet you under the right circumstances.