I didn't respond earlier to your follow-up post because it seems you're more describing your feelings than asking for any specific advice. Very feminine of you!

I would like to send you a complimentary copy of our book Practical Female Psychology. Please send me a PM with your name, address and phone number. 

Cheers!

Joseph

Thanks for responding so quickly.  I already responded once, but have seemed to lost it somehow...So here I go again...

I really don't believe in one soul mate.  I'm not saying that we don't have them, but I feel that we have multiple.  At least, I really hope so.  I have changed so much, and yet so little over my life that I can't imagine that there could only be one to share it with me ( and what of my friends, whom I feel a very strong connection to - soul mate strong!)  I believe that our souls make different connections with different souls, and it doesn't have to be romantic, sexual, platonic, or solitary to exist.  

And a man-hater I am not.  Quite the opposite.  I love them.  Don't always make the right choices, but I love them.  I pursue relationships with disposables and pursue friendships with lifers.  Is that common?  Just a safety response?

I don't really want to check out websites of women who hate men.  I can't relate.  Again, I love them, so much, but can't seem to make valid choices, or even determine if I am headed in the right direction.  And, I guess, realistically speaking, I feel that I may have wasted my prime real estate time.  By that I mean it seems that men that I may be interested in or attracted to are interested in much younger women than me. And, I can certainly relate because I don't know if I am interested in in men much older than me.  I am a fun girl!  I need an attitude, spirit, and energy to keep up.  Not Daddy Warbucks!

Meh!...so long winded...thoughts?

Yes, it's true, men and women have different perspectives... but a lot of the strategy is just the same!  

Two things to think about to get you started: 

1. The idea that there is One True Soul Mate is pretty much a myth.  If you can accept that as myth, it let's you be much more free to accept men you are dating to just be themselves.   That is, it's easier for  you to manage any feelings of attachment that always happen.

2. Take dating 1 day at a time, and always have something else going on, just in case.   That something else could be reading a book or knitting a sweater, or programming computers or whatever.  Maybe even a different date.  Doesn't matter.   What matters is not having your emotions and sense of self-worth depend on how well any particular date turns out.

There's loads of dating sites for women.  Some of them may be good.  Most of them seem to be full of unhappy, bitter angry women complaining about how lame men are, for whatever reason. This is not a helpful attitude.  Bitterness and cynicism are not universally attractive.  Happy attitude goes a long way!

Broaching our material to men... good question.  We're very interested in this ourselves, and not just because we want to sell books (which we do of course), but in a larger sense to help men reach their full masculine potential.   

Can you trust any of the women?  I am currently reading "Tripping the Prom Queen" and I understand that sometimes women are insanely and destructively envious.    

Looking forward to hearing more from you!

I've been recently listening to, and reading lots of material on all of your websites... Excellent fascinating information.  I am a female, late thirties, newly-ish single, but previously perpetually in a LTR, with very little time in between.  I have never really had any experience 'dating'.  I'm thinking that it would probably be a great time to start.  Since the LTRs CLEARLY are not working for me. Trouble is,  have no idea WHERE or HOW to start.  I live in a small town, where there is literally 1 degree of separation for anyone.  And, I'm a chick, so there does run the risk of being dubbed a 'whore'.  Good times.  And, how does such chickie broach this to the potential men?  Any help?  Most of the information I see seems to be based from the male perspective, which is very different from a woman's.  Thanks!