Real Modern Man

Invoke said:

I'm curious to hear people talk about their preferred age ranges for approaches, and if they find that in the field various ages work better for them.

For my part, as I get older – I'm 40 now – I find my range gets bigger.  At least for the women I think are interesting/hot.  Currently, I think 18 to the rare 45 year old can be very attractive in their own ways.  When I was 32-35, I would never have considered 40+ women.  However, my ex is happily dating a 28 year old who seems to have a preference for 40+ women.

I do seem to have a block with actually approaching women under 30, much as I might want to do so.  Even with the living example of my ex, I still find it hard to get past the “they'd never go for me” belief.  So I don't try and therefore never get any proof pro or con.

I don't have any problem talking socially to young women, but I think it is because I am friendly and no-threat.  No tension due to that block.

Hopefully I'll hear some examples from people who don't have that block in the first place or who got past it.

To answer my question, I usually find myself approaching women in the range of 6 years younger than me to my age, but I'd like to widen that significantly.

+Invoke

Succinctly, if age doesn't matter to you, it's not going to matter too much to women.  Older men are often unattractive due to their behaviors.    Robert Redford, Clint Eastwood and Ralph Lauren have retained an enormous amount of presence into, frankly, old age.  Any man can do this.

There is a lot more to it of course.

This is in part a numbers game.   In my experience, there are about 10% of younger women who are specifically attracted to older men.  If you are attractive, these women will send you choosing signals.   Another 10-20% are open, depending on the man.  This percentage will be friendly to a friendly approach.   At the other end is 10-20% who are specifically NOT attracted to older men, and may reject any approach with contempt.   Everything in the middle, you have to deal with the ASD factor.  Turns out that age isn't important to a lot of women as what her friends will think, which is why it can be quite tough to engage a good girl.  

I recommend http://www.steelballs.com/  R. Don Steele has been dating younger women for decades.  I have read two of his books on the subject which are both great.

As he says, which matches my experience, you have to let young women be young, which occasionally requires gritting your teeth while you watch them head into disaster! 

Old guys with no skills: creepy.  Old guys with lots of experience, get girls.  The older you get, the better your skills have to be.  

Bill Maher is dating a women ~30 years younger than himself.

I really used to worry about the age-”problem” when I was younger..

took me a while to realize that it really is only a limiting belief..

case in point:

I'm now 22 years of age.

I've been with a friend of my sisters, age 18.

I've been with a colleage (work/college), age 29.

I've been with an acquaintance of my moms, age 42.

And just to further that point, my sisters friend (age 18) is now dating an 47 year old AFC.

There really are only age barriers if you dwell on them.

But if you'd told me when I was 20, I'd soon be in bed with a 40+ year old woman I wouldn't have believed a word. 

~Regards, Lord Bateman

Hey Invoke!

I agree with what the others wrote above. I have had women as much as 5-6 years older than me and 17 years younger than me. 

Please send me a PM with your full name, address and phone number so I can send you a complimentary copy of Practical Female Psychology. 

Cheers,

Joseph