Real Modern Man

Hey there!

First of: I wear contact lenses. I like them. They make me see better and turn my eyes blue. Which is also a big part of my physical-attraction-package.

My problem: My contact lenses make my eyes blue. Girls really like that. But they just can't stop shit testing me about them..

“I like your eyes. I could lose myself in them.” Which is almost always followed with: “Is blue really your natural eyecolor?”

Now I've had this problem with almost all the girl I've slept with, ONS/FB/LTR .. In the old days (bAFC) I'd just lie.. and the girls would should up for a while..

nowadays I use the typical shit-testing-remedies: ignoring, funny response, diversions, topic changes, IODs, soft Nexts, anger..  I just really need to find a good way to not have to lie about his which I consider the worst way of dealing with this kindof funny situation..

but in the end, it doesn't matter what I do they always feel cheated to learn that my contact lenses are colored.. now I've no intention to stop wearing them..

is there any RIGHT answer to that old “Is blue really your natural eye color?” question.. which includes a solution to my resulting problem for when they find out it isn't..

Answers would be greatly appreciated..

~Enjoy, Lord Bateman

ps: I'm almost to the point of not caring anymore.. shedding all my needyness.. It's just that I feel a huge loss of attraction once they find out that I wear colored contact lenses.. how can that be.. I don't care that much about a pushupbra for example.. I'd appreciate somebody helping me on reframing this..

pps: I know in the great-end-of-all-things my probem really isn't a problem at all and while reading through it again the post reeks of needyness.. I just wonder what you guys think about it as that question really is one I've never found an answer to.. even with extensive field-time..

hey there!

Thanks for the advice Joseph. Now that you mention it, I've actually pulled using different colored contacts and rich descriptions. I really felt like we were on one wavelenght until she hit me with this the following morning: “So does your eye-color really change only on your birth-& saints days?”

 That's when I started harder screening for intelligence. 

I guess my problem with the  “Is blue really your natural eyecolor?” questions is that I have not yet reached the stage of “yey! I'm being shit-tested” feeling.. I do pretty well with normal shit-tests but this one almost always managed to rattle me at least a little bit.. I feel like being asked why I wear pants in a public setting.. I consider my contacts as the most normal thing in the world and I just don't get it why women don't see them as what they are: something common and normal..

*further-rambling* well anyways.. thanks for the advice – I'm going to work on my rich descriptions and on keeping conversations on the emotional side of things

~Regards, L:B