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Post-sex drama. ATTN: David :)

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6:08 am
January 13, 2009


flamingo71

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This post is about the same girl I posted about in my last topic “Urgent help needed, help me out guys!”. It's a long

topic as well, but I hope David or someone with experience will find the time to comment, much appreciated.

I will first add some additional information about this exclusive LTR, since I think it is important for reaching a

conclusion.

BACKGROUND INFO (for more, see my previous topic):

This girl has had sexual fantasiez ever since she was a very little child. She told me that she used to draw little

perverted erotic comic strips when she was 12 years old already. She has always had tons of sexual fantasies (which

have almost entirely been fulfilled in her relationship with me, even tho I didn't aim for it – it just happened).

She has verbalized to me on a few occassions that she loves to be dominated. She loves to feel that her man is taking

control over her. I naturally exhibit a lot of physical and verbal sexual dominance in bed and I feel this works

perfectly with the type of woman she is.

She has also verbalized to me once that our sex is so hardcore and perverted that she wouldn't be surprised if in the

future we started hitting each other less than delicately during sex. This was said in a manner of “oh no I should be

scared of the sex turning so brutal! But in the deepest parts of my mind I would secretely find this extremely

arousing…”. At least that's the way I interpreted it, and I doubt I was wrong by the small smirk and light in her

eyes she had when she was saying that.. :)

TWO DAYS AGO:

Two days ago, we meet in the evening and hit the water park. After that I go take care of a business meeting while the

LTR waits for me in a shopping mall nearby. An hour later after the meeting, I call up the LTR and tell her I'm done,

and take her to this bar I saw a couple weeks ago and have been wanting to visit since then. We have a few drinks

(this may be an important part so keep it in mind), awesome sexual conversation, and about 2 hours later we leave. All

was going awesome, we are really enjoying each other's company and had a wonderful time.

We head back to my place by bus ( full of people ), it's pretty packed but after a few stops someone gets up so there

is this one empty seat next to us. I tell the LTR to sit down while I stand next to her, and she unzips my pants and

starts rubbing my dick (which was covered by my jacket so no one could see.. ;) ).

20 minutes later or so we are at my apartament. It's already well after 1:00AM, I decide to do just a bit of work on

my computer. Some escalation starts going on and I drag her into the bedroom…

THE SEXUAL PART:

The sex was really hot. Partially because we both tend to get sexually aggressive after some drinking (I dunno if this

is true for everyone, so I'm just speaking for us here).

Keep in mind, our sex is always rather aggressive. Lots of spanking, hair pulling, hardcore anal, “fuck me like the

bitch I am” and “I will use your pussy as a storage compartament for my sperm” kind of talk flying around all the

time.

This time it was probably a bit more rough. Not too much, we didn't do anything that we havent done before, but my

voice was definitely more aggressive than usual (I contribute that to the alcohol). The only thing that we did which

was out of the ordinary was when I told her to fuck herself with a dildo while I mouthfucked her. She came within 5

seconds literally (suspect she has some MFM fantazies :) ).

She orgamized many times during this fuck session, she was definitely enjoying it to say the least :) . However…

THE SITUATION:

I came after around 45 minutes. I was more aggressive than usual during that moment but nothing overtly special

really. Once I was done, she looks at me and says “you dominator!” and slaps me on the face (not too hard, but not

light either). This was new, since she has never slapped me in a sex session before, and this wasn't a “you ASSHOLE!”

kind of slap, more like the “I feel this fuck session was hardcore enough that I can slap you and it won't be weird”.

Right after this slap tho, her facial expression got somehow neutral, like she was in deep thought. At this very

moment I remember what you David told me in the previous thread, and I quote:

“See, when you take a girl way out into emotional wilderness, you need to bring her back to emotional civilization.”

I immidiately started kissing her lightly on the face (I was still on top of her here), touching her softly, saying

things you would say to a child you are trying to comfort, hugging her etc. For some reason tho I felt that she has

already been 'closed off' to this, and was lost somewhere in her own thoughts. I got off of her, lay down next to her

and extend my arms in an “I'm inviting you for a hug” manner and told her to come over. She does so, but with her back

turned to me, so we are laying on bed and I'm hugging her from behind. I comfort her a little more and then we stay

there for around a minute in silence.

She gets up, goes to the other room and comes back with her cigarettes and sits down on the side of the bed and starts

smoking (she has done this before only once after a sex session, and it was right before some drama was about to

inssue ;) ). I am really dead tired at this point so I slowly start falling asleep. She is smoking one cigarette after

another, not looking directly at me, deeply in thought. I ask her one or two small questions, she just answers with a

quick “yes” or “no”.

O start fading away into dreamland, I think I was even starting to have some dream about a girl who wanted to sell me

bubble gum on the street (never happened in reality).. :D suddenly I hear the words “Are you asleep..?” and I wake up.

THE “DRAMA”:

It wasn't really huge drama or anything, I'm just calling it that for lack of a better word. The conversation from

this point on went something like this:

ME: yeah i was falling asleep, I'm extremely tired..

HER: you enjoyed this fuck right?

ME: Of course, it was fantastic

HER: I didn't like it. I felt like I was a slut! (this was said in all seriousness.. go figure ;) )

ME: I love you too, honey..

I start dozzing off to sleep again unvoluntarily. I feel a light tug on my leg, I open my eyes.

ME: huh?

HER: are you going to apologize to me?

ME: you are so cute *smirk*

Around 30 seconds of silence go by here. I'm dozzing off again..

HER: *says something I didn't quite understand cause I was falling asleep*

ME: hm?

HER: I don't like this.. I'm going to stop taking the pill.

ME: cool, I'll buy a twelve pack of condoms tomorrow.

*she moves for the first time a little closer to me, you could sense she was getting more pissed off*

HER: You are very aggressive in bed, I'm tired of being submissive to you!

ME: *don't remember what I said here, I was dozzing off to dreamland again*

HER: will you apologize to me?

ME: go talk to ZYX (note: XYZ was the name of a politician that is known in our country for apologizing all the time

for everything), i want to go to sleep.

HER: I'm not feeling well (she meant emotionally of course)

ME: in the drawer in the kitchen there are some anti-pain medicine, it is supposed to help when you feel bad.

HER: But I'm feeling bad because of you! don't you care about that?

ME: come here and lay with me and hug, it's really comfy here.

HER: no, you come to me and hug me.

ME: I'm really too tired (it was true – my bed is giagantic, and we were in two different corners of it ;) ).

*30 seconds of silence go by here*

HER: Flamingo71… do you love me?

ME: of course I love you

She comes closer to me and sits next to me for 20 seconds, then lays down and hugs real strong. Some mild and silent

waterworks here.

We start kissing and somehow start fucking again. She cums 3-4 more times, I cum too, and we lay down in bed. For some

reason here she suddenly turns very compliant, offering to do stuff for me. “Do you want something to drink?” or “You

wanted to get up early tomorrow morning, I'm going to get my cellphone and set the alarm clock for you”, stuff like

that. Finally we fall asleep (it's 4AM now… :D ).

FINAL OBSERVATIONS:

I'm not entirely sure I manage to understand what happened here.

Was this just a shit test to see if I really am who she thinks I am?

Did she get 'freaked out' when she saw that part of her which slapped me on the face, and this was some sort of post-

sex ASD?

Comments very welcome, and thanks for reading this!

Oh and a final P.S.: her period is in 1-2 days ;)

3:15 pm
January 13, 2009


David

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Aren't women wonderful!


You handled it very well overall.  You didn't take her emotions either too personally or too seriously, and you let her dissipate her emotions in a way that left her feeling good and feeling safe.   Occasionally, women seem to need to cry for no reason, something that petrifies most men.   Because her sexuality is so wild, she needs you to be very emotionally strong and non-judgemental to feel free.  Again, most men could never handle her.


BTW, you're past the need to think about her behavior as “shit testing.”   

More points:
*  She isn't “LTR” she is a woman with a name.  Give her a fake name for privacy, but definitely call her by a name.


* We just had the biggest full moon of the year this weekend.   I am getting stories from literally around the world from men whose women went beserk.   You are in GREAT company!

3:23 pm
January 13, 2009


flamingo71

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Haha funny that I just logged in to see if there was an answer, and after two or three refreshes I find your post :)


We DID see the full moon, it was absolutely spectacular! I should have guessed it would unleash the warewolf in women, I'm gonna start carrying a cross and garlic with me on those days.


Btw it seems I can't get to make good paragraphs in my posts, even when I use enter. How do you do it? [Oh I just realized how. Use TWO enters guys!]


P.S. I'll call her Karen from now on

3:35 pm
January 13, 2009


David

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I'm not supposed to say this, it breaks all the marketing rules… but our forum software really sucks, and we haven't taken the time (and it will take some time) to get better software installed.


We're glad to have you aboard in any case!


And definitely, take good care Karen.  It may not work out in the long term for you both, but I don't think she will ever forget your strength and acceptance of her needs as a woman.  Franco, Joseph and I all love passionate women, and never think less of any woman who is truly expressing her sexuality.  


-dc 


ps:  We're building our customer list here: http://realmodernman.com/main1/registration/

This is different than the main mailing list, but everyone on this gets those as well as stuff we send out once in a while.  Register there and I'll send you the draft copy of my guide for 5 movies about power and sexuality in woman.  I think you and Karen would very much like watching these together… and answering the questions about each movie afterword!

4:01 pm
January 13, 2009


flamingo71

Member

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I have just registered there, thank you David!


P.S. you have also said before in the previous topic something in the lines of “it may not work out for you in the long term”. Could you maybe explain where this is coming from?

4:15 pm
January 13, 2009


David

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Social expectations for relationships are that they magically work out “forever and ever amen.” 


This is not what happens in practice. 


People sometimes grow in different directions, and it's normal.    Sometimes painful, but normal.


That's all I mean, don't read anything more into it!

4:20 pm
January 13, 2009


flamingo71

Member

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Ah ok :) yes I'm already past the point of living in fairy tales, mostly thanks to you guys. I just thought it was based on something specific you saw in the way me and Karen interact. It's cleared out now.


Thanks again for your help


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