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2:42 am
October 6, 2008
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aladin
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Hi,
i'm reading your book and it s great.however:) i run into some things that are not so clear(to me)without a proper exemple.
eg:the lse threshold test; it s very well explained why and the “mechanism” of the test but i need to give me one exemple of “giving her an order in a slightly harsher and one of making fun of her AND then escalating such teasing”.
what is the tone of your voice when u give her an order,what did u say?(come here,do x?);etc?
thx u and sorry 4 my bad English.
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6:22 pm
October 6, 2008
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David
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There is another way to evaluate LSE: do nice things for her without any expectation of return. Calibrate her self-esteem to how she treats you. Specifically, if you do nice things for her she respond in one of 3 ways:
- She will thank you warmly. This is what you want.
- She will be embarrassed, uncomfortable, perhaps angry or agitated. She might say something like “You shouldn't have” or “I hate it when people give me gifts.” This often (not always) indicates low self-esteem and (always) poor socialization.
- She will try and get more stuff from you, without giving you anything back. This is really ho behavior, but a fair number of such women have low self-esteem as well.
This is what is called a “value gambit.” It doesn't work at all if you “give to get.” Giving to get is manipulation. Value gambits only work when you give in appreciation, and without any expectation.
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10:35 am
October 9, 2008
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aladin
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thxs for your answer David.
before i used to make them a little compliment to see/test for her self esteem level.
as for your suggestion exactly like in my first post i understand what are u saying however the practical part it s killing me: ))
nice things: buy them a little gift( a small necklaces),a massage,pay for icecream(or coffe,soda,pizza when we get together)?
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8:26 am
October 14, 2008
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David
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Buying things like that is risky.
Pciking up the tab for coffee, or a very small meal is much better.
The biggest problem with buying anything for a woman is that you have immediately establsihed a “price” with respect to your interactions.
Few women want to feel like whores (some don't care of course), and this is the risk you take when buying something.
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