Real Modern Man

There used to be a time when I would see a cute chick and think, “it would be nice to meet her!” But then I would second guess myself and think, “but wait, what if someone even better comes along?” It seems ridiculous now, in retrospect. I was always the perfectionist: I felt I should aim ever higher. Now I know better. I talk to all women! And I find that a lot of them are incredible in many different ways that I never would have expected. What’s more, just talking to a woman doesn’t mean that I’m somehow sacrificing my own freedom. I can meet as many women as I like!

Not only do most men believe that they can only be in a relationship with one woman at a time (I don’t subscribe to this belief myself), but many feel that they can only pursue one woman at a time. Partly it’s because society brands any man who loves talking to women as a “player”. And partly it’s because we’re raised to believe that there’s “one special woman” out there for us. The fact is, if there is that special girl, we’re ten times more likely to meet her if we meet ten times as many women. It’s statistics.

Movies may teach us that love is a matter of fate. But why sit around your house, playing video games, waiting for “fate” to drop a woman in your lap, when you can go out and start meeting many beautiful and incredible women immediately? And you know, for those of you who are nervous about approaching an attractive stranger, it’s less nerve-wracking when you know that there’s ten more women just behind her, eager to meet you. Not every woman is a perfect match. But contrary to what the movies may teach, the fastest way to find a great match is to quickly sift through all the not-so-great matches (I won’t say “poor matches”, because every woman can offer you something wonderful if you let her).

My life is full of fantastic women: Acquaintances, friends, lovers. None of them judge me for being the man that I am. In fact, they appreciate that I have so many women in my life, because they know that they can be utterly comfortable with me. I don’t see my relationships with women as an all-or-nothing venture. And by dropping my expectations of them, I find I have a lot more women choosing to be in my life.

~Tubarao