Comments on: 0070 All about Cougars…. question from a women about male intentions and how to pick up men… man gets confused by his facebook FB http://realmodernman.com/jws0070/ Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man Thu, 08 Oct 2009 22:35:41 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: David http://realmodernman.com/jws0070/comment-page-1/#comment-54 David Sat, 31 Jan 2009 00:24:22 +0000 http://realmodernman.com/main1/?p=480#comment-54 I'll go even further here... If this guy "looks good on paper," and you and he both want more or less the same thing, he will become more attractive to you as he relaxes into his natural masculinity. He is going to have to trust you and feel comfortable around you for that to happen. Most women frankly suck at allowing men to feel comfortable... and wonder why "all the good ones are taken." I’ll go even further here…

If this guy “looks good on paper,” and you and he both want more or less the same thing, he will become more attractive to you as he relaxes into his natural masculinity.

He is going to have to trust you and feel comfortable around you for that to happen. Most women frankly suck at allowing men to feel comfortable… and wonder why “all the good ones are taken.”

]]> By: Silvertree http://realmodernman.com/jws0070/comment-page-1/#comment-53 Silvertree Sat, 31 Jan 2009 00:18:31 +0000 http://realmodernman.com/main1/?p=480#comment-53 To answer Flygirl’s question; yes he is afraid to ask directly because he is afraid he will get turned down. He is having a good time being in the warmth of your female energy and is afraid he will lose that if he moves. If you haven’t been there, it is hard to understand how painful that situation is for an unsure guy. He is terribly conflicted; he wants to ask but is afraid of blowing it. He can’t decide if you really want him, and is worried that if you do he will blow it by moving too fast. Guys get filled with a lot of wrong information about women and their desires. They get told they are predators and that women only tolerate sex to get commitment. They are afraid of being embarrassed if they get blown off in public. They get the idea that only handsome movie star types are attractive to women, and that they aren’t good enough. They are filled with BS that makes them afraid to act. Here is the basic rule; if he’s there, he likes you. Guys don’t want to be your friend, they want to fuck you. If they didn’t, they wouldn’t be buying you drinks. The way it should work is, woman gives sign she is open to doing the mating ritual and the guy then either plays or rejects her. But, many guys are so uneducated in these matters that they don’t understand the signs women send them, or are not sure if they are getting the go signal. And if they do understand, they may be terrible at the mating dance. Most guys have no idea how to proceed even if they are sure the girl does like them. This is why when they end up in bed with a woman despite their ineptitude, they call it getting lucky. You are going to have to decide if you want to wait for one of the few guys who gets it, or if you are going to help the guy there now, given that he is too whatever to do it himself. He is likely a nice enough guy, just one that is socially inept and uneducated in these matters, and likely scared shitless that he will screw it up and lose you. Silver To answer Flygirl’s question; yes he is afraid to ask directly because he is afraid he will get turned down. He is having a good time being in the warmth of your female energy and is afraid he will lose that if he moves.

If you haven’t been there, it is hard to understand how painful that situation is for an unsure guy. He is terribly conflicted; he wants to ask but is afraid of blowing it. He can’t decide if you really want him, and is worried that if you do he will blow it by moving too fast.

Guys get filled with a lot of wrong information about women and their desires. They get told they are predators and that women only tolerate sex to get commitment. They are afraid of being embarrassed if they get blown off in public. They get the idea that only handsome movie star types are attractive to women, and that they aren’t good enough. They are filled with BS that makes them afraid to act.

Here is the basic rule; if he’s there, he likes you. Guys don’t want to be your friend, they want to fuck you. If they didn’t, they wouldn’t be buying you drinks.

The way it should work is, woman gives sign she is open to doing the mating ritual and the guy then either plays or rejects her. But, many guys are so uneducated in these matters that they don’t understand the signs women send them, or are not sure if they are getting the go signal. And if they do understand, they may be terrible at the mating dance. Most guys have no idea how to proceed even if they are sure the girl does like them. This is why when they end up in bed with a woman despite their ineptitude, they call it getting lucky.

You are going to have to decide if you want to wait for one of the few guys who gets it, or if you are going to help the guy there now, given that he is too whatever to do it himself. He is likely a nice enough guy, just one that is socially inept and uneducated in these matters, and likely scared shitless that he will screw it up and lose you.

Silver

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