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The Old Rules
At the heart of the US financial crisis is that many financial institutions are holding large numbers of “sub-prime” mortgages, and when home prices moved downward, they became worthless. In real talk, a sub-prime mortgage is one that was made to someone who couldn’t afford to pay it back. Yes, the banks were wrong to make so many of these marginal loans, but it takes two to tango, and the homeowners have to bear some responsibility for buying a house they couldn’t afford.
OK, I have to admit that when we bought our home we borrowed every penny the bank would lend us, and it is hard to criticize others for doing the same, but back then banks used sensible rules to decide what the limits were.
Men with traditional values earn more
From Scientific Blogging:
Timothy Judge, PhD, and Beth Livingston from the University of Florida say that sexism still exists and it has positive effects on income … if you’re a man. Their study says men who believe in what they call traditional roles for women (whether they believed a woman’s place is in the home, whether employing wives leads to more juvenile delinquency, whether a man should be the primary earner and if the woman should take care of the home and family) earn more money than men who don’t, though women with more traditional outlooks don’t make much more than women with more egalitarian views.
From my personal experience, I was once highly motivated to make a lot of money to be able to care for my wife at the time. Her employment was somewhat hampered by a health issue. I felt duty-bound to earn for both of us.
What’s your personal experience?
Emotional Manipulation by Miscommunication
Miscommunication is frame-control manipulation by one party assuming the right to dictate arbitrary and changing terms of communication at the expense of another party.
This can also called “he said, she said” where the “he” and “she” are absolutely independent of the actual gender of the participants.
The way miscommunication often plays out is that one party (the “obtuse” person) makes an emotionally-based assumption about the intentions of the other party (the “didactic” party), then uses this assumption to seize and maintain frame control. Efforts at clarifying communication are pointless while the obtuse party is suffering from the emotional compulsion to dominate frame.
Disrespect — does it matter?
Here is a little secret I’ll share with you, one that doesn’t play well with almost anyone: disrespect rarely matters in modern dating, romance or business.
It truly doesn’t.
We have laws against dueling. Replying to assault (which can be verbal, difficult to prove) with battery (physical, much easier to prove) puts you into the other person’s frame, and puts you on the wrong side of the law.
What matters is how a person’s actions affect your bottom line.