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One Woman’s Opinion Does Not A Myth Debunk
Michelle, posting via San Francisco Chronicle online edition asserts
While I can’t claim to speak for all older women, I’m guessing I’m not the only one who, given a free hour, would choose a book over a boy toy, ten times out of ten.
Really.
She sounds pretty sure of herself: “Ten times out of ten.”
And that “While I can’t claim…” yeah, right. You and I both know that’s exactly what she’s claiming.
Unfortunately for her, she isn’t a cougar, and her “debunking of myths” is neither a debunk nor is it a myth.
I’ll go head to head with anyone, man or woman, of any age, that wants to tell me about older women. If there is any one thing I DO know about… it’s older women. Starting as a high school junior dating a high school senior… and on from there.
Gents, here’s the deal: if you’re a younger man, and an older woman approaches you in a friendly way, shut your mouth and let nature takes it’s course. She might really only want directions to the Starbucks… but she might just be delighted for you to show her the way… You literally need do nothing more than not eff it up.
For the young man in question… kudos for him for stepping up! I don’t blame him at all for avoiding further contact, given the relish with which she tooled him. Later, as he gets his game in gear, he’ll know how to say something like “Ah… the smell of poop in the morning. So refreshing!” Then his “cheesy pickup line” becomes a “funny icebreaker.”
With Power Comes Responsibility — Date responsibly!
I subscribe to a fair number of seduction newsletters, some of which I occasionally read. One morning’s newsletter from Grant Adams of “Net2Bed” opens with an email from a woman describing how she got “played” by a guy using Grant’s material. She concludes with the observation that as much as it stung her personally, most guys were pretty good guys overall, and learning Grant’s material would do them a world of good. Grant closes with an appeal to “date responsibly.”
What does it mean to date responsibly?
Be authentic
Most importantly: be open to the man you really are. If you’re a slimy, shiftless scumbag, dude, there are chicks out there for you! Just be open to it, be authentic! Conversely, if you’re a pretty decent guy, no need to pose like a tough guy. There are chicks out there way tougher than you, and they will puncture your pose like a cheap condom.
Being authentic means aligning your internal perception of yourself with how people perceive you externally. This is easier said than done, because it’s hard to see ourselves as other people see us. One way to achieve this congruency is to hold a clear vision of who you think you are, and act accordingly. For example, if you style yourself after Hef, it would be a good idea to be an outgoing kind of guy who entertains regularly and manages at least some sort of harem.
Leave them better than you found them
Once a man develops some skill women, that is, once he learns to be attractive and form intimate emotional connections with women, he finds that “getting laid” isn’t the issue. The issue is what to do with all the women that want to be in his life. There is a creed in the seduction community attributed to Ross Jeffries: “Leave them better than you found them.” I could write a book on this theme, it’s that important.