To Txt Or Not To Txt (That is the question)
Txt messaging is an easy, effective skill worth learning now!
This advice on txt’ing do’s and don’ts was inspired by a similar article appearing at Cosmopolitan. Cosmopolitan magazine can be an amazing resource for men who have the self-confidence to enter what is truly a woman’s world. Go here now and read Cosmo’s article on txting, then return and read my “do’s” and “don’t’s.”
Txt’ing “Do’s”
Do after your first date. Especially if you like her and want to see her again. This is contrary to Cosmo’s advice for women to NOT txt men after dates, but that’s ok, it’s a matter of Yin and Yang. Show her your appreciation without neediness and supplication, demonstrate your interest, let her make the next move.
Do show appreciation. This is best done regularly and randomly. For most men, the randomness comes naturally, moments of “Uh oh, I wonder what’s she’s up to, haven’t thought about her in a while.” All you men know exactly what I mean! The next time this happens, send her a simple, short, sweet txt that shows you are thinking of her.
Do flirt. My friend Deacon is a master of flirting with txt messages. Go here and get schooled on Deacon’s txt flirt methods.
Txt’ing “Don’t’s”
Don’t txt drunk. Just don’t do it. You WILL regret it.
Don’t be angry. Keep everything positive. Txt to improve someone else’s day, not to unload your toxic crap on them to make yourself feel better.
Don’t be a comedian. Making her laugh is not the same as being a comedian. If she is laughing at you, you’re aren’t turning her on. When she is laughing to dissipate “tension” you’re on the right track!
Don’t “txt bomb.” Send a txt, don’t wait for a reply. If she replies, sweet! If not, you’re busy enough doing what it is you do that you won’t notice… right?
Relationships are the same!
All of the above advice (and Cosmo’s advice) seem to be for “dating.” But why stop dating once you get into a relationship? The truth is that every one of my tips applies to your long term relationship, with your girlfriend or your wife, just as much as it applies to dating women you just met. Send her a txt message right now!
By the way, we’re on twitter:
- David Clare: http://twitter.com/davidclare
- Joseph W. South: http://twitter.com/josephsouth
- Franco: http://twitter.com/francoseduction
See you there!
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Sorry to be posting late on this. I haven’t had a chance to read this place in weeks.
Young women are SMS texting addicts. My daughter sends 6000 a month, and gets a couple times that many. They send texts about most anything. Random thoughts, frustrations of the moment, little joys.
Guys rated as “Cool” flirt with them all the time. Huge amounts of sexual banter both in B/G & G/G convos. Huge amounts of friendly tweaking each other.
A women alone is a bored woman. It seems they need constant conversation. My daughter can’t just read a book, watch TV, or do Homework. She always has IM going on her PC with 8 people on at the same time, is texting, and has Facebook fired up, because she has 500 friends and they constantly add things she needs to comment on. It seems to me that as long as it isn’t needy shit, but you are being real, and fun, it would be fine to text a woman you are involved with.
The worst pejorative a young woman can put on you is boring. Don’t be boring or uncool and it will be OK. Given that my kid texts friends from the dinner table with weighty stuff like, “I’m eating chicken, yuch”, it can’t be too trivial. And texts like that get replies like, “Buck Buck Buck”, which she get her laughing.
Silver
Silvertree
27 Jan 09 at 8:09 am
Silver,
Great to have you back!
I love txt msgs, much more than phone. I get 300 minutes per month on my phone, plus rollover… I have 2275 minutes rolled over!
My good friend The Highway Man just wrote an excellent article on txting… I’ll try to dig it up.
David
27 Jan 09 at 4:22 pm