You are absolutely correct in your assessment: most women do NOT know exactly “what they want,” which is whole ‘nother conversation I opened in the last line!

So asking them is doubly unfair: 1. why should they give up the keys to the kingdom for free, and 2. if they don’t really know, then they might feel “bad” in some way for not knowing.

When you readjust yourself to see woman as true partner and equal, there is no need to ask anyway. It’s not something that will even cross your mind.

I could go deep here. Inappropriate for public forum.

About this post here, “Why asking women…”, I question the assumption in the post that women consciously KNOW their seduction keys and are able to share them. Certainly they know a few of them–but the ones they’re aware of are merely the ones they’re most conscious of. There exist many more–perhaps the most powerful ones–somewhere beneath the conscious surface. It’s less the case that the woman is holding back some grand knowledge from her man–until she’s attracted to him or wants something in return. Rather, I doubt if she can even articulate many of these keys to herself, let alone to the man in her life.

A good example is the shit test. For most women and situations, the criteria for successfully passing the shit test are largely unconscious. Woman are unable to articulate something such as, “I’m attracted to a man who can deftly navigate the double-bind scenarios that I throw at him. This is best done by him teasing me or otherwise not taking me and my shit test seriously”. Rather, when a woman likely senses herself in an unsure situation with a man, she instinctively blurts out the shit test. The man’s reaction then triggers an attraction switch. Either she feels increased attraction after his response (he passed) or she feels a bit less interest (he failed). I doubt she’s able to cogently point-out the why’s and how’s of his passing or failing.

I’m not saying we’re all unconscious, behavioralism automatons. Rather, there are simply many keys to female attraction that most women (and men) are unable to articulate on their own. …It’s only thanks to your writings that I myself am even a bit more aware of them!

Keep up the good work!!