With Power Comes Responsibility — Date responsibly!
I subscribe to a fair number of seduction newsletters, some of which I occasionally read. One morning’s newsletter from Grant Adams of “Net2Bed” opens with an email from a woman describing how she got “played” by a guy using Grant’s material. She concludes with the observation that as much as it stung her personally, most guys were pretty good guys overall, and learning Grant’s material would do them a world of good. Grant closes with an appeal to “date responsibly.”
What does it mean to date responsibly?
Be authentic
Most importantly: be open to the man you really are. If you’re a slimy, shiftless scumbag, dude, there are chicks out there for you! Just be open to it, be authentic! Conversely, if you’re a pretty decent guy, no need to pose like a tough guy. There are chicks out there way tougher than you, and they will puncture your pose like a cheap condom.
Being authentic means aligning your internal perception of yourself with how people perceive you externally. This is easier said than done, because it’s hard to see ourselves as other people see us. One way to achieve this congruency is to hold a clear vision of who you think you are, and act accordingly. For example, if you style yourself after Hef, it would be a good idea to be an outgoing kind of guy who entertains regularly and manages at least some sort of harem.
Leave them better than you found them
Once a man develops some skill women, that is, once he learns to be attractive and form intimate emotional connections with women, he finds that “getting laid” isn’t the issue. The issue is what to do with all the women that want to be in his life. There is a creed in the seduction community attributed to Ross Jeffries: “Leave them better than you found them.” I could write a book on this theme, it’s that important.
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Yeah it would be good to adopt an ethical principle in this regard.
I’ve found myself destructive towards people that I have been close with in an effort to distance myself and create negative energy in my impulses towards that person so it’s easier to move on.
I don’t think this is a mature response to the matter however.
When one finds oneself in distributive position and decides to take more for one’s self at the expense of another, morals are essential in a civil society.
The ancient Greek understanding of a moral violation was “taking more than your fair share”.
In an ideal world, I believe we would seek to be in a society that lifts each other up, not tears each other down.
Watch your impulses and stay positive, what you believe will manifest itself.
SG4
19 May 09 at 10:03 pm